Have you ever dreaded the hard work you know is ahead of you, to solve a certain problem you are facing? In those moments of dread did you hope and much prefer to discover - or even be willing to pay for - a secret, easy solution?! I know I have fallen into that trap more than once in my life. Heck, I think many millionaires have been made on the back of large numbers of people falling into that trap! Doing the dreaded hard work seems ill-enticing, boring and let's face it, most of us subscribe to the whole 'instant gratification' phenomenon that is our society today. We don't want to wait.
This delayed gratification concept though, it actually really packs some punch, I've come to realise recently that it may hold the best kept secret - near guaranteed results! I hear your objection right now "what Kristy, as if you can 'near guarantee' results?" But hey, you feel free to argue with me otherwise. For example, if your goal was to improve your tennis playing ability, you could be tempted to hope that if you hired Roger Federer as your coach, you could improve your game quickly (possibly true) but you could also achieve the same, if not better outcome, by setting aside 2 hours a week to play and practice tennis for one whole year. Which solution do you think is more likely to get you genuine results that will sustain? (Maybe this is a bad example because I hate to say anything negative about Roger Federer?!) But I'm sure you're intelligent and you get my drift - committing to spending time practicing and developing a skill is a near guaranteed way of improving your growth and ability in that area. That's the secret punch that delayed gratification offers; the solution is almost simple, you just have to be prepared to put the time in and patiently wait for the results.
Developing our relationships and improving the dynamics in our workplace are more pertinent and serious examples of how we can achieve growth and outcomes through consistent effort. We know that developing genuine relationships takes time and investment. Any leader who thinks they can waltz in with a smooth smile and flatter with some false charm is not going to get very far - most humans can smell insincerity from a mile away. If you want to improve productivity and achieve results in your team - which I believe you absolutely can! - you need to make sure you are putting in the consistent investment. Communicate with your team and interact with them in a way that serves both you and them.
A sure fire way of connecting with your team, inspiring and motivating them to want to achieve bigger and better outcomes, is to improve your Emotional Intelligence (EQ). We are all capable of improving our EQ by learning about what EQ is and starting to practice implementing its strategies. There is no shortage of evidence (research and anecdotal) to suggest that leaders with higher EQ lead teams that are higher functioning and achieve greater results.
Since you are reading this, you are likely a person who has an attitude of lifelong learning and a desire to grow. I have recorded a FREE 20 minute (approx) training session (youtube link above) to outline some EQ strategies that you can start implementing with your team now, that will absolutely help your team relationships and results. If you are already implementing an EQ approach in your leadership, excellent, I am sure this short training will encourage you to keep going and provide you with some new strategies to consider.
I hope the insights in the video give you some practical strategies to apply in your work or personal relationships. Short of that, I hope that reading this article has at least inspired you to save your money on hiring Roger, in preference for getting out there and practicing consistently!
Look forward to crossing paths with you one day in our mutual mission to connect, grow and live!
Kristy @ Wellbalance