Have you ever felt in your heart that you could be more than what you are? Have you ever dreamed of greatness, and thought about the good you could bestow on others, how generous you could be if you had the opportunity?
There are a lot of great people out there, who have all the attributes and abilities to succeed in copious amounts, but have not yet harnessed the power they have internally to make their dreams a reality. If we have not harnessed our internal self, how can we possibly harness the external opportunities around us? In my latest video blog - which I will be releasing in 5 stages, this being the first - I address the 5 pillars of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and how you can harness and refine these within yourself. Understanding EQ is the key to great success (if you don't believe me, just ask mr google and many other experts). By implementing EQ strategies you can shift your mentality and improve your ability to achieve great results in your goal attainment and personal/professional relationships. Don't fear, you don't have to be born with impeccable EQ, or even any EQ, to harness and develop it! These are skills, habits and mentalities that you can learn and implement daily that will help you take control of your life and relationships. You can improve your ability to connect with others on a genuine level, giving you the power to influence all your people - for good! Below is the first of 5 installments in which I talk about practical ways you can understand and implement the 5 pillars of EQ. This first installment focuses on the skill of Self Awareness. Enjoy the content, I've designed it so that it adds genuine value to your life and challenges you to reflect and grow. Feel free to share it with anyone who might find it helpful, and contact me or leave any comments/questions below. A sneak preview outline. In this short video Kristy talks about: * Identity - can you articulate who you are and what you stand for? Clarity surrounding your identity has a monumental impact on your self esteem and ability to interact positively with "your people". * Awareness of your Strengths and Weaknesses - are your threatened or defensive of your weaknesses? Do you think that acknowledging weaknesses mean you are a failure? Get to know and appreciate your weaknesses, then you can have power over them! * What are the triggers or past traumas that influence you? Determine what they are, deal with them and don't allow them to dictate you any longer
Kristy is the founder of Wellbalance. She is inspired to motivate leaders and workplaces toward proactive, effective and productive communication with their people, to achieve positive outcomes for all. Kristy enjoys long walks on the beach and holding hands at sunset (just joking - actually not really!) Kristy thrives on seeing relationships reach their full potential, and celebrates when people come to understand their true value - to love their flaws, accept their perceived failings and grow beyond these. She believes that the entire human race are healthier and happier when they CONNECT - with their people, GROW - in their self awareness and ability to engage with others, and LIVE - life to their full potential.
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What is it that you suffer from when stress starts to overwhelm you? I can identify with all of the above (hopefully never again the rocking though!!). I know what it's like to be under constant pressure, balancing various competing demands. The thing is, I've changed. People regularly ask me "Kristy, how do you cope with the stress of your work and not allow the situations you deal with to impact you?" My reply is always the same - I actually find it easy. I'm not saying this to brag, I'm saying this because it's true. But I don't find it easy by pure chance. I find it easy because after many years of working in high stress or distressing situations, I have learned some skills that I implement day in, day out; I know who I am; I have faith in my professional skills, I know what I'm capable of dealing with; I know what's my responsibility and what's not; I'm not afraid to say "this is out of my depth" and refer a situation on; I always do my best so when I walk out the door I can maintain my integrity and say "I have given it my all and done everything reasonably expected of me"; I refuse to label myself as a failure because I can't do it all; I know I'm not wonderwoman and I don't expect to be. I guess you could say I am aware and content with who I am on the inside, and that awareness and contentment influences how I interact with my environment on the outside. The reasons why we get stressed can be complex, but often they boil down to a common denominator; our expectations. What is it that we expect of ourselves? What is it that we expect of others? Have we been intentional and realistic when setting up those expectations? Or are we mindlessly adhering to them without taking the time to realise and articulate exactly what we think? Below is my latest FREE video in which you can listen to 6 clear strategies helping you immediately start to de-stress your days AND move toward intentionally bringing a state of calm and productivity into your life Kristy is the founder of Wellbalance. She is inspired to motivate leaders and workplaces toward proactive, effective and productive communication with their people, to achieve positive outcomes for all. Kristy enjoys long walks on the beach and holding hands at sunset (just joking - actually not really!) Kristy thrives on seeing relationships reach their full potential, and celebrates when people come to understand their true value - to love their flaws, accept their perceived failings and grow beyond these. She believes that the entire human race are healthier and happier when they CONNECT - with their people, GROW - in their self awareness and ability to engage with others, and LIVE - life to their full potential.
Have you ever dreaded the hard work you know is ahead of you, to solve a certain problem you are facing? In those moments of dread did you hope and much prefer to discover - or even be willing to pay for - a secret, easy solution?! I know I have fallen into that trap more than once in my life. Heck, I think many millionaires have been made on the back of large numbers of people falling into that trap! Doing the dreaded hard work seems ill-enticing, boring and let's face it, most of us subscribe to the whole 'instant gratification' phenomenon that is our society today. We don't want to wait. This delayed gratification concept though, it actually really packs some punch, I've come to realise recently that it may hold the best kept secret - near guaranteed results! I hear your objection right now "what Kristy, as if you can 'near guarantee' results?" But hey, you feel free to argue with me otherwise. For example, if your goal was to improve your tennis playing ability, you could be tempted to hope that if you hired Roger Federer as your coach, you could improve your game quickly (possibly true) but you could also achieve the same, if not better outcome, by setting aside 2 hours a week to play and practice tennis for one whole year. Which solution do you think is more likely to get you genuine results that will sustain? (Maybe this is a bad example because I hate to say anything negative about Roger Federer?!) But I'm sure you're intelligent and you get my drift - committing to spending time practicing and developing a skill is a near guaranteed way of improving your growth and ability in that area. That's the secret punch that delayed gratification offers; the solution is almost simple, you just have to be prepared to put the time in and patiently wait for the results. Developing our relationships and improving the dynamics in our workplace are more pertinent and serious examples of how we can achieve growth and outcomes through consistent effort. We know that developing genuine relationships takes time and investment. Any leader who thinks they can waltz in with a smooth smile and flatter with some false charm is not going to get very far - most humans can smell insincerity from a mile away. If you want to improve productivity and achieve results in your team - which I believe you absolutely can! - you need to make sure you are putting in the consistent investment. Communicate with your team and interact with them in a way that serves both you and them. A sure fire way of connecting with your team, inspiring and motivating them to want to achieve bigger and better outcomes, is to improve your Emotional Intelligence (EQ). We are all capable of improving our EQ by learning about what EQ is and starting to practice implementing its strategies. There is no shortage of evidence (research and anecdotal) to suggest that leaders with higher EQ lead teams that are higher functioning and achieve greater results. Since you are reading this, you are likely a person who has an attitude of lifelong learning and a desire to grow. I have recorded a FREE 20 minute (approx) training session (youtube link above) to outline some EQ strategies that you can start implementing with your team now, that will absolutely help your team relationships and results. If you are already implementing an EQ approach in your leadership, excellent, I am sure this short training will encourage you to keep going and provide you with some new strategies to consider. I hope the insights in the video give you some practical strategies to apply in your work or personal relationships. Short of that, I hope that reading this article has at least inspired you to save your money on hiring Roger, in preference for getting out there and practicing consistently! Look forward to crossing paths with you one day in our mutual mission to connect, grow and live! Kristy @ Wellbalance |
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